Emotional awareness and management was a big "aha" when I started working more with the social intelligence programming.
About half of the general population tend to be more CONTROLLED with their emotions when interacting with others. Their NEEDS for security and comfort revolve around tasks and results; getting things done.
Because their NEEDS are task focused, they are less concerned about others' feelings and opinions; they don't NEED those to feel good. The risk for these people... because their NEEDS are not relational, they haven't been forced throughout their life, to master relational tactics like compassion, esteem and empathy; therefore, these are likely growth opportunities for them. For these people, emotional management means, showing more emotion and being more relational.
About half of the general population tend to be more EMOTING when interacting with others; meaning they feel and show their emotions more. Their NEEDS for security and comfort revolve around people; they want harmony... approval... respect. etc.
Because their NEEDS are relational, they are very people focused. They are skilled at helping others feel comfortable and connected. Since they were little they have been reading people and deploying relational tactics like compassion and empathy; and not because they are better humans, but it helps them meet their needs more effectively. The risk for these people are being too relational, too emotional, taking things too personally and not being focused on the task. They are easily distracted when they feel something is off with others. For these people, emotional management means, being more thoughtful, taking things less personally and focus on facts over feelings.
The reality is BOTH have advantages and disadvantages, but both are needed in our homes, schools, careers and communities. It is all about emotional awareness and management and people working to better understand themselves and each other.