The "Things I Worry About" Circle
Updated: Nov 19, 2021
I like this visual.
There is one thing I would like to add.
The “Things I Worry About” circle is a different size for different people. People NOT understanding their circle and not understanding others’ circle causes a lot of stress, insecurity and bigger problems.
I believe the size of a person’s “Things I Worry About” circle is directly related to their emotional tendencies and capacity.
What do I mean by this?
About half the population TEND to be more EMOTING meaning they display more emotions (verbally and non verbally) with their Actions, Interactions and Reactions. My belief is their “Things I Worry About” circle is bigger than the other half of the population; some by a little and some by a lot. AND… their emotional capacity is greater, meaning they have a greater capacity to experience highs and positive emotions, as well as the lows and negative emotions. This can be really tough to manage.
Why is this important?
Managing the highs, lows, good times, challenges, happiness, and stress may be a very different experience for those who are more emoting and therefore may require different stress management strategies than many other people. In fact, the more emoting someone is the less most other people will be able to relate to their experiences and perhaps offer them solutions that support them.
If you are someone that tends to be more emoting… the sooner you acknowledge it the better. That acknowledgement could provide the curiosity to learn more about it, increasing self-awareness and leading to better self-management.
I’ve seen this over and over and over with clients, but I also live it. I tend to be more emoting. The highs are amazing and the lows really suck. BUT… when you realize you can learn more about them and manage them, the whole world opens up with a greater sense of control, better results and less stress.